Achieving perfection and remembering how great you are 6

Wow, I just turned 30, something I have been looking forward to for a year now. It’s amazing to reflect on what has been and what I’ve learned through the years. I truly feel older, smarter, and wiser — but with so much more to learn. The funny thing is that I feel like every time I hear people talk about turning 30, it’s taken with such negativity. I hear everyone say “oh my god, i’m 30 now”; as of it’s such a bad thing. People ask me “does it feel weird turning 30″, to which I always respond “I feel amazing.”

The reason being, I feel like my experiences over the last 10 years or so have lead me to where I am today. I’m more confident in my abilities professionally, and, in who I am personally. I believe that life is a “beautiful struggle” to quote Talib Kweli and that our experiences help shape who we are as people, they’ve certainly made me a stronger, harder working, and extremely passionate, in all walks of life.

I’ve learned a few things, but, this year, I know I’ve grown so much, again, personally and professionally. Over the years I’ve learned how to harness my passion towards my entrepreneurial endeavors and personal goals/challenges. I know I will always fight for things I believe in. And, I’ve learned about who I am as a person and I won’t sell myself short for anyone or anything, like I have in the past. This is a big deal. 

You see, hitting 30 to me isn’t a milestone of “shit, I’m getting old”, to me, it’s the realization that I’ve become a smarter, wiser, and more aware human being. As long as I’ve known, I’ve wanted to be respect professionally and want to make an impact on the world. I want to change industries, I want to help people, I want to be the catalyst for job creation and giving people graduating college an opportunity I didn’t have, that I had to fight for.

Most importantly, I have realized none of this matters if I don’t have people in my life to share those experiences, my growth, my struggles, and to celebrate victories with. I care deeply about the people in my life and who I spend those moments with.

As I start this next phase of life, I know that I am going to fight for everything important to me and work harder than ever to achieve goals. I won’t settle for anything because I know what I deserve. I will always stand true to my work hard, play hard lifestyle because it provides me balance and the ability to live in the moments of those I care about.

I have been doubted, told I wouldn’t amount to anything, been given the short end of the stick, sold my self short in so many occasions, laughed at, disregarded, passed up, and spent years alone.

To take a quote from one of my favorite scenes in the most recent Rocky movie, “it ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward, how much you can take, and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”

This is why life is such a beautiful struggle because you live and learn. It’s the catalyst for who I am and who I will become. I remember a conversation in church about nothing being perfect, not to god, not to anyone, because we all have a different view of what perfection is. But, I’ve realized that I now know what being perfect is: It’s about fighting back from adversity even after you’ve got nothing left and knowing that you’ve done everything you can in your career, for your family, and for your friends. The outcome is not the definition of perfect, it’s the road that is truly defined by perfection. Being able to look everyone in the eye and saying you did everything you could, that is perfect.

Keep moving forward my friends, keep fighting, because, that truly is how winning is done and the only way to be perfect. I will always fight for how great I believe I am. Will you?

6 thoughts on “Achieving perfection and remembering how great you are

  1. Reply Jessica Gottlieb Sep 10, 2012 9:54 am

    This is a brilliant way to start a decade. I’m just going to use your words to start my week and know it will be great.

    Happy Birthday.

  2. Reply devant Sep 10, 2012 10:58 am

    Seriously kickin’ straight up knowledge. Thanks for the insights, esp. on greatness and perfection!

  3. Reply Gina Pekins Sep 10, 2012 8:09 pm

    I feel like I’ve watched you grow up a little :-) . I’m so glad for knowing you for so many years now, and having the privilege of watching you gain confidence and go for what you want. You’re an inspiration! Happy birthday.

    • Reply tonyadam Sep 10, 2012 10:10 pm

      Gina, I’ve been fortunate enough to work with amazing people, worked for some great leaders and meet such smart people. Because of that I’ve learned and grown up so much professionally. But, along with that I’m lucky to have met so many great people personally too that I have learned and grown from. I agree, my confidence is leaps and bounds above where it was when we met and I’m happy for that. People like you helped me get there, and for that, I thank you. Much love and thanks for the bday wishes!! :)

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